I am so sad and a little frustrated that it takes the review of bullying in Parliament to again highlight bullying in the workplace.
I have been bullied; I was bullied for two years solid, in every way possible, until I nearly had a nervous breakdown.
Nobody stood by me, everyone looked on and said nothing. When I finally spoke out and sought help, I was asked to resign. I am now ostracized in the community I live in; I cannot get a job in the career I love so much, that is nursing. So, in seeking help I have been punished and I continue to be punished. I was in no way supported by the HR department for the company I worked for, and to this day, I had no real closure over what was a hideous, heart-breaking, soul-destroying time.
I would love to go back nursing, but would have to seek a job outside the region I live in. I lack confidence, and I sometimes get angry, and sad. I was humiliated by the bullying. I had things thrown at me. I had his enablers on my back all the hours I worked. They all set me up to fail and look stupid, but nobody HELPED.
I understand this, as people need their jobs and need to survive, but the feeling of bullying never ever goes away. What is worse, the bully still has his job, and I don’t.
The company – one of the major aged care companies – had education of sorts; they had written policies, and guidelines in their Health and Safety Policies, but these were not followed, and they played lip service to it. When I rang HR for support, I could never contact them.
Over the two years with the company I saw him bully not only me, but many others, and nobody put a stop to it. So, when I see six tips to prevent workplace bullying, I don’t have much confidence that these will do anything towards stopping bullying. You can give workplaces all the toolboxes you want, and bullying will still go on.
From my perspective, to fix bullying, the bully must be dealt with; they need to feel the consequences of bullying, and they need to be ordered to have psychological counselling, as usually bullies have troubled personal and family lives and have been brought up being bullied themselves. The man that bullied me was beaten by his alcoholic father and belittled, hence the bullying; he also worked with prisoners and ran the facility like a prison.
So, what do I do now? Through my own efforts and hard work I work part-time for an excellent, very reputable organisation, which treat me with respect. I run a BnB which I have developed over the last two years. I am involved in music, and learn musical instruments, and I volunteer. I try and keep busy so I don’t think about what happened. But how can I forget, when it is not resolved for me?
The goal MUST be to treat the bully and the enablers, and they must be made aware of the consequences. There has been enough discourse; now we need action.